EFT Resources for Clients
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a powerful, research-based approach to healing and strengthening relationships—whether with a partner, family member, or yourself. Rooted in attachment science, EFT helps people understand their emotional patterns, repair disconnection, and create lasting closeness.

Below you’ll find resources to help you learn about EFT, discover what secure connection looks like, and find inspiration for your healing journey.

​🎥 Watch & Reflect

• Living Love That Lasts (YouTube)
  A touching short film featuring real couples reflecting on how love can grow deeper over time. With beautiful narration and gentle storytelling, this video reminds us that long-term love is imperfect—and worth nurturing.
• Sue Johnson & Ed Tronick on Attachment from Infant to Adult
  A simple and powerful explanation of how attachment needs shape us—across our whole lifespan.
• What is EFT? (Video from ICEEFT)
  An introductory video for anyone new to Emotionally Focused Therapy, created by the founders of the model.

📚 Books to Deepen Understanding

• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – Dr. Sue Johnson
  A foundational book for couples, offering a step-by-step guide to creating emotional closeness.
• Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships – Dr. Sue Johnson
  Explains why love is a basic need—not a mystery. Accessible, hopeful, and grounded in research.
• Created for Connection – Dr. Sue Johnson & Kenny Sanderfer
  A Christian-integrated version of Hold Me Tight, ideal for couples who want to blend faith and emotional growth.
• Attachment Theory in Practice (For those curious about deeper learning)
  While written for therapists, some clients enjoy this more in-depth exploration of how emotional bonds work in therapy.

🎙️ Listen & Learn

• The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast: The Art, Heart, and Science of EFT
  Accessible conversations about love, healing, and human connection—great for couples or individuals in therapy.
• Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy
  A playful but thoughtful podcast focused on emotional connection and intimacy in romantic relationships.

🧠 Learn About EFT & Attachment

• What is EFT? (ICEEFT Overview)
  A great introduction to the model, straight from the international organization that trains EFT therapists.
• Understanding Attachment Needs
  Learn how emotional needs for safety and connection shape our responses in relationships.

💬 Groups, Community & Support

• Hold Me Tight® Workshops
  Many EFT therapists offer weekend workshops based on Hold Me Tight, where couples learn how to reconnect emotionally in a structured, supportive format.
  Ask your therapist or check out our Local HMT Workshop offerings.
• Find a local EFT Therapist
  If you’re not already working with an EFT therapist, you can find a certified clinician here:
  👉 St. Louis Local Therapist Directory

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​📲 Stay Encouraged

• Instagram: @eft_stl
  Follow us for quotes, insights, and reminders that healing happens through connection.